fear of masturbation how to over come it?
Monday, May 11th, 2009 at
12:29 pm
Sam0_0 asked:
then here the thing, I really wish that I be able to make, but I feel dirty and guilty même to test. When j& #39; Young étais, as in small the garçon speaks d& #39; âge of my mère to beat me for it all the time and m& #39; said that j& #39; étais a pos and went à l& #39; hell. shes also the même woman which had sexual relationships when j& #39; had friends to spend the night and n& #39; did not have true morals for its car. they lock me in my room for qu& #39; they can have sexual relations and its as ever they does not worry if they m& #39; réveillé has or not. it is time d& #39; to explore, j& #39; had of my fenêtre, à a little wee in the middle the night ….. in addition to the point it is afraid and me I want more him and être able to benefit from the masturbation. my ex boyfriend told me qu& #39; they made and that I would be in colère then desire for crying because I felt like if j& #39; étais not rather good for them. then qu& is needed; #39; there is much à to make and j& #39; ended up breaking with all above. I had sexual relations with them of time right it not to so much make, but it n& #39; forever travaillé. I know im pathétique. then now with l& #39; man im im in love with and it respects me, but not im so much fear qu& #39; he is all the time. now, here, best I prétendu than j& #39; like à to look before having sexual relations to us, we are allés à the shop porn acheté of the toys and for each one of us. a mâle and a mâle masterbater G spot toy, 3 différents godes in sorcière is of small à large and the dernière does not go only à l& #39; business. the toys of its work for him très well, therefore in the ground, it is except play and thats the end. im horny coincé without anything. it m& #39; like still enough to play with me, but it does not go to feel if hes not more in l& #39; environment, so that its turn large a décollage. so I get déprimé once more, in the même direction, I wanted him, but s& #39; it you plaît not to have laissé in the poussière. that us tryed to have sexual relations later in the night, and I couldnt même to have an orgasm. it has décollé again and me nothing.i had a couple clit orgasems but I want a true place one G. who makes tighten my legs like it était. that my ex could do it, but it has a chronic disease masterbater it didnt work out. the worst of that is I cant même to stimulate my car. I these flash backs of the sexualité which has all goes badly in my life and it breaks me in tears. im sorry I amndt so confusion and d& #39; impotence or can-être TMI for some, but this n& #39; is really to make me déprimé.
then here the thing, I really wish that I be able to make, but I feel dirty and guilty même to test. When j& #39; Young étais, as in small the garçon speaks d& #39; âge of my mère to beat me for it all the time and m& #39; said that j& #39; étais a pos and went à l& #39; hell. shes also the même woman which had sexual relationships when j& #39; had friends to spend the night and n& #39; did not have true morals for its car. they lock me in my room for qu& #39; they can have sexual relations and its as ever they does not worry if they m& #39; réveillé has or not. it is time d& #39; to explore, j& #39; had of my fenêtre, à a little wee in the middle the night ….. in addition to the point it is afraid and me I want more him and être able to benefit from the masturbation. my ex boyfriend told me qu& #39; they made and that I would be in colère then desire for crying because I felt like if j& #39; étais not rather good for them. then qu& is needed; #39; there is much à to make and j& #39; ended up breaking with all above. I had sexual relations with them of time right it not to so much make, but it n& #39; forever travaillé. I know im pathétique. then now with l& #39; man im im in love with and it respects me, but not im so much fear qu& #39; he is all the time. now, here, best I prétendu than j& #39; like à to look before having sexual relations to us, we are allés à the shop porn acheté of the toys and for each one of us. a mâle and a mâle masterbater G spot toy, 3 différents godes in sorcière is of small à large and the dernière does not go only à l& #39; business. the toys of its work for him très well, therefore in the ground, it is except play and thats the end. im horny coincé without anything. it m& #39; like still enough to play with me, but it does not go to feel if hes not more in l& #39; environment, so that its turn large a décollage. so I get déprimé once more, in the même direction, I wanted him, but s& #39; it you plaît not to have laissé in the poussière. that us tryed to have sexual relations later in the night, and I couldnt même to have an orgasm. it has décollé again and me nothing.i had a couple clit orgasems but I want a true place one G. who makes tighten my legs like it était. that my ex could do it, but it has a chronic disease masterbater it didnt work out. the worst of that is I cant même to stimulate my car. I these flash backs of the sexualité which has all goes badly in my life and it breaks me in tears. im sorry I amndt so confusion and d& #39; impotence or can-être TMI for some, but this n& #39; is really to make me déprimé.
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You have made it quite clear that your parents made you afraid of masturbation. I think most people are afraid of masturbation because it makes them feel guilty. I think to overcome your guilt and fear you have to experience it and understand it. Understand why you feel guilty and afraid.
I think it is interesting that you left your old boyfriends because they masturbate, and yet you want to be able to masturbate yourself. It seems that you take boyfriends masturbating as a personal offense. Is it because it makes you feel worthless, or because you are envious that they can masturbate without feeling as you do?
I guess it would be important to point out that most people masturbate. There is nothing wrong with it. It is not cheating on your partner or anything. In fact, studies have shown that people who masturbate have more sex and better sex than people who don’t. Masturbation is often important for women, because it teaches them what pleases them the most and and how to experience an orgasm to the fullest.
I think I would recommend that you work your way to masturbation. It seems you can have sex with your boyfriend, so instead of him penetrating you, you could have him use his hands to pleasure you instead. If you are comfortable with that, use your hand to pleasure yourself as he pleasures you. Once you feel comfortable with that, just pleasure yourself in his presence. Maybe have him caressing or kiss the rest of your body as you do it. Once you feel like you can do that, I would have him become less and less involved in your self pleasuring until his presence is no longer required.
Also a therapist, specifically a sex therapist would be very helpful. I think the MOST important thing in this all really is your historical family issues. I think they are the root cause of your problems and it is important to address them.